Is there any context where it's acceptable to mention a former admirer to a married woman?

Fri, 07 May 2021 11:22:44 +0000

A male friend we’ll call Patrick, knew I was acquainted with a lady he liked (I'm a male too), so he asked if I could help find out if she was ‘available’. So, I asked Mercy (that’s what we’ll call her), and after a little bit of banter, she told me she was in a relationship. However, she still wanted to know who her admirer was. I didn't think it was necessary to provide that information, since she had confirmed she wasn't available anyway. I delivered her response to Patrick, and to the best of my knowledge that marked the end of the whole episode.

About a year later, Mercy got married. Interestingly, it was precisely on Patrick's birthday. I told him and we laughed about it. We thought there was a poetic justice hilarity to it, that his birthday somehow would become a permanent anniversary and reminder of ‘the one who got away’.

Two years later, I randomly remembered the event and thought I should share the ‘funny story’ with Mercy. She didn't think it was funny in any way and accused me of inappropriately messaging a married woman. Although I didn't think I had been inappropriate or disrespectful, I tendered a genuine apology, but I've wondered; was there something I missed? Was I truly wrong? Anyone with similar stories?

What was it like losing a parent you were really close to?

Fri, 23 Apr 2021 07:51:36 +0000

What's an interesting experience (good or bad) you've had with lending friends or family money?

Sun, 04 Apr 2021 08:52:32 +0000

What's an interesting experience (good or bad) you've had with lending friends money?

As a single person, in what ways did your relationship change after a friend got married?

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 17:27:50 +0000

How has being married changed your relationship with your unmarried friends?

Sat, 20 Mar 2021 11:20:52 +0000

Voisser - Recent Voisses in Family & Friends

Is there any context where it's acceptable to mention a former admirer to a married woman?

What was it like losing a parent you were really close to?

What's an interesting experience (good or bad) you've had with lending friends or family money?

As a single person, in what ways did your relationship change after a friend got married?

How has being married changed your relationship with your unmarried friends?